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Posted on 2012-02-21 00:09:46 by swb90
so...i have a friend S who's been my best buddy since secondary school. i asked her to come to my house for dinner one day becuz there was some event at my house.
everything was nice and good.....i sent her home after the whole thg as it was really late.
while i was having supper at home, my mother told me something really interesting....she told me that her friend (my mother's friend) asked if that was my girlfriend.
of course my mother denied it because she knows that S is my best friend since secondary school. my mum then said told me that her fren say "friends also can become girlfriend de mah...just need time nia..."
i told her its impossible....she's not looking for a guy....
then my mum told me my dad likes S....she says my dad feels she is a really good girl and will make an excellent girlfriend/wife....to be honest...i was quite shocked at this piece of information.....
i agree that S is a really nice girl and all that....but it's just that we've been frens for so long that i dunnoe if it is appropriate to cross the line....
we have 3 mutual friends and the 5 of us hang out together quite often....im usually the one with S as she's the one i feel most comfortable with....there are 2 other girls within our clique....
i didn't put this on my personal blog becuz S is a reader there...i dun wan to cause awkwardness since she's a rather avid reader of my entries.....
should i bring this up to S or keep it a secret? i value the friendship we have but at the same time, i am also tired of being alone.
S doesn't share this sentiment, that much i am sure. she is very independant and adventurous.
this isn't the first time such a thought came into my mind....but it is the first time i heard either of my parents voicing their opinions about S.....
Comment:
relativity said the following on 21-02-12 01:25
you sound like you like S as a really good friend. but do you like her as much to say that you are in love with her?
mercuryRingers said the following on 21-02-12 04:32
That's interesting. It's too complicated to be a simple yes or no question. I think you should think really hard about it before making any decision. Don't kill the idea. ;)
swb90 said the following on 21-02-12 08:55
@relativity she is someone I can come to love, given some time. I cannot say I like her as much to say that I love her because I have a clear distinction between someone I love and female friends. It's one of the few rules that I impose on myself. That is to say I will never have any feelings of attraction towards my female friends. If such feelings do arise, I will suppress it so that it doesn't show up. That's more or less how I maintain platonic relationships with females. It's kinda like the Friendzone thing. Once I marked the person as a friend, I am very unlikely to have feelings for the person.
@mercury I guessed as much -.-!! hahahahas~...hmms I don't really know...to be honest I don't even know what I should really be thinking hard about....the only thing that's going thru my head is "Is this worth the risk of losing the friendship?"...not exactly helpful when my answers always turn out to be "No" due to my pessimistic nature.
princess said the following on 21-02-12 20:54
Let nature take it's course. =)
relativity said the following on 22-02-12 00:33
some people fall in love by the first sight. others fall in love after making a conscious decision to do so. it sounds like you are the latter. i suppose all you can do now is really to consider the idea, and think about it... pros and cons, and whether you wanna take the risk. (:
swb90 said the following on 22-02-12 08:04
@princess hahahahas nature never favours me when it comes to relationships =)
@relativity yeah...back to square 1....-.-!!...